Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Interracial Dating: Love Is So Much More Than Skin Deep

Since the beginning of time the laws of attraction and passion have been debated. What makes someone beautiful? What makes one person attracted to another? One thing is for sure. It isn’t race. When people let their guard down and don’t let societal stereotypes and judgments interfere with their personal feelings anything can happen. A black man could fall in love with a white woman; an Asian man could fall in love with a Hispanic woman. Race doesn’t determine attraction. It’s what’s on the inside that matters. Beauty isn’t skin deep and love certainly isn’t either. Interracial relationships are natural. They are the next step in advancing society without taking societal norms and racism with us.

Looking through the world in a local sense may give the wrong impression. All around us is prejudice and racism. Those who have desires for an interracial relationship may be put off and discouraged. Let me tell you personally, the right person is waiting out there for you. I’m in an interracial relationship and it’s the happiest I’ve ever been. The only people who give us looks are those who never got out enough, those who fail to see the beauty in a person, those who are simply misguided and negative. I’ve known for most of my life that I wanted to be with someone else who wasn’t the same race as I am. It was just a feeling. Now having acceptance and closure on that feeling I am able to be myself and enjoy my partner’s company how I’ve always wanted to.

If interracial dating is something you feel like you want to try, you should. It will always be that unknown for the rest of your life if you leave that as an open ended question. You can’t help who you’re attracted to, and pretending you feel any other way won’t change that. The heart wants what the heart wants.

I like to think the world is filled with happy, kind and open minded people, but sadly that’s not always the case. The area I grew up in was very rural and there were few minorities. The idea of an interracial couple was unheard of and there were certainly none in the area. If there was an option such as an interracial dating site for me back then I would have had a whole new world opened up to me. My world was so closed off to the idea of interracial dating.

When pursuing a relationship with somebody in a still relatively unique situation such as an interracial relationship, it can be hard unless you have a supportive base. One of the best ways to meet people who think the same way and want to encourage you to do this is through online networking.

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