Debunking the stereotype behind Asian male interracial dating

Even in the 21st century, people have not changed their perspective towards Asian men when talking about interracial dating. On the other hand, one would expect just the opposite of this. But, in reality, this is not the case, as still there are people who have stereotypes regarding Asian males dating interracially. People still find it weird for some reason. But, the main question is why do they think so?

Stereotypes like “Asian men aren't sexy (They are geeky)” prevail everywhere. In fact, the best examples of such stereotypes are depicted on the small screen where Asian men get rarely involved in interracial relationships. And, even if they try to hook up with non-Asian women or get attracted towards these women, then their efforts seem to fail simply because they are seen as geeky.20

ON THE TV

In this case, you can take the example of the popular television show ‘Two Broke Girls.’ In it, you can see the character of Han Lee (Matthew Moy). He is constantly the laughingstock of various racist jokes and stereotypes that insult Asian men at every turn, like short, cherubic, disrespected, impotent, childlike, unmanly, unattractive, emasculated, unpopular, gullible, effeminate, desperate, et3c.

Another show that contributes to this nerdy and unsexy image of Asian males is ‘The Big Bang Theory,’ in which the character of Raj Koothrappali (Kunal Nayyar) is the ideal example of such stereotypes. In the majority part of the show, he is shown as if he cannot even talk to women.

IN REAL LIFE

You can see the undesirability of Asian males in real life too. For example, when Lorde, the New Zealand singer posted her photos with her Asian beau, James Lowe, the critics had a field day. There were many unforgiving tweets about their photos, which called Lowe “PSY gone wrong,” referred to him as “ugly,” some did not forget the “math nerd” stereotype, and some compared him to “Mao Tse Ting (mao zedong).” Some people even said that they just felt “uncomfortable” by seeing both of them together.

Many other couples have also reported that they too have dealt with such racist remarks and stares. Grace Mineta, who is a white woman, is married to a Japanese guy. On her blog, she writes about their relationship and how she has learnt to deal with racism. This clearly shows that the concept of AMWF (Asian Men White Female) coupling is not a very normal thing for most of the people.

Here, the main thing to be noticed is that female counterparts of Asian men have been praised over the years. Plus, this is also due to the stereotype of the ‘yellow fever.’ The women are seen as submissive and exotic and have been sexually objectified and fetishized in the West. Additionally, interracial relationships between White men and Asian women are more likely to be popular as compared to relationships of Asian men and White women.

Moreover, these stats are not only because of the fetish theory of White men and Asian females. It is also due to the fetish of dating Asian women. There are some Asian females who exclusively prefer to date Western males, because they idealize the Western ideals of romance and Western standards of beauty. Most of the women prefer Western men, because they are brought up in a culture that desires Western men.

This is true as much as AMWF relationships are found to be very rare. But, does this mean that we do not even show them on television too? Well, at least there is a TV show, entitled ‘Selfie,’ that tries to debunk such stereotypes related to the unsexy Asian man, where John Cho plays the character of an Asian Male, who is just the very opposite of the previous versions of Asian men on the small screen. The show gives a hope to AMWF couples by featuring this unusual interracial couple combo and by dispelling the interracial dating barrier on television.

Thus, there is still a long way to go for the acceptance of interracial relationships and maybe much longer for AMWF couples. However, if shows like ‘Selfie’ are regularly shown on TV, where an AMWF couple is portrayed positively, then seeing real life couples, such as Lorde and Lowe will not be so uncomfortable.

But, the big question here is that why people really feel uncomfortable over such pairings?

Famous interracial couples in TV

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In recent years, interracial marriages have been on the rise. Mixed marriages are now something absolutely ordinary, even though Hollywood did take its time reflecting that social pattern. TV has finally caught up with reality, however - check out our list for your favourite interracial couples:

Olivia Pope and Fitz Grant

“Scandal” focuses on the story of Olivia Pope, played by Kerry Washington, who’s torn between two White men - one is the stern, but stunning Tony Goldwyn, playing President Fitzgerald Grant, and the second is Jake Ballard, paid to spy on Olivia, but eventually fell in love with her.

Community

We simply can’t leave Troy Barnes, the star quarterback of his football team and a prom king, and his love interest, Britta Perry out of this list. After a couple of years together in university, the two finally realized they had deep affection for one another - even though they decided to split in their senior year, when Donald Glover (playing Troy) left the show.

Modern Family
The stunning and exotic Sofia Vergara played the role of the infamous Latina Gloria, married for the much older Jay, who’s also White. Their relationship resembles in many ways a number of interracial couples in real life.

Suits
Genius Mike Ross, played by Patrick J. Adams, is a major character, after he convinces big-time lawyer Harvey Specter to hire him, even though Mike has never been to Harvard and doesn’t have a law degree. The flirt and chemistry between Mike Ross and colleague paralegal Rachel Zane quickly turns them into one of TV’s favourite interracial couples. In fact, Rachel’s also a product of an interracial dating, with her father being Black, and her mother - White.

Shameless
Shameless’ fans favourite couple is undoubtedly Veronica Fisher and Kevin Ball. Veronica is a confident and incredibly loyal Black woman, who knows exactly what she wants is not afraid to ask for it, and is 100% adored by her husband Kev.
 

Famous celebrity interracial couple (Michael Jordan and Yvette Prieto)

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Love, they say, comes in all shapes and sizes and doesn’t care about age, social standing or race. Some of Hollywood’s most adored couples are in interracial relationships - take Michael Jordan and Yvette Prieto, for instance.

Yvette Prieto was born in 1979 and is a Cuban-American model, posed for famous designers such as Alexander Wang. She met Michael Jordan in a Miami nightclub in 2008 and the two quickly fell in love. After dating for only a year, they moved together in 2009. Jordan didn’t waste too much time and proposed to Yvette on Christmas day in 2011.

The NBA legend tied the knot with his long-term girlfriend on April 27, 2013. The wedding included an extremely romantic ceremony, followed by a reception with a 300-person guest list, including names such as Tiger Woods, Lindsey Vonn, Spike Lee and Patrick Ewing. According to various sources, the reception, hosted in Palm Beach, Florida, had costed the couple the impressive $10 million! One year later, in February 2014, the couple welcomed their two daughters -identical twins Victoria and Ysabel Jordan. Some time later, Yvette admitted in front of a popular tabloid that, with the wedding and their daughters, she now had everything she ever wanted.

Michael Jordan and Yvette Prieto have most certainly faced the challenges a large number of interracial couples have to deal with. Apart from that, they also have a quite large difference - with Yvette, 35, being 15 years younger than her husband. However, neither the race, nor the age seems to be a deal-breaker for these two. After being together for five years, before marrying, and welcoming their beautiful twin daughters a year after the official wedding ceremony, Michael Jordan and Yvette Prieto seem happier than ever.

A Child - of an interracial couple (Interracial dating)

In this fast moving century Evolution is no new word. Understanding that a part of us is always evolving into a new world with no catch for the races, the acceptance for multi-racial people has taken a positive leap now-a- days.

Being a person with biracial identity, now I can enjoy the pride and privilege of both the cultures I belong to. I am confident of what I am and who I am to this world. But, it started when I was a kid.

At an age where I can realize that I look different from most of my family members. When my friend was more inquisitive to know how I got this colour. I stood confused.  My mom gave me the answer. She explained me about skin colours and how they have nothing to do with human characters. She told me “Me and your father got married after interracial dating. We are of different races but we loved each other for what we are”. I understood that life is something just beyond skin colours.

Here it is a responsibility of every multi-racial couple, as a parent, to make the child understand what races are; Why he or she is different and being different is always good and not anything weird.

’ Tell her what gave that curly tuft of hair and tell him how he is a blend of two colours. Tell them to stand up for themselves, but at the same time they should endure kindness and patience throughout their life.’

Research states that children born out of interracial marriages are found with no difference in level of depression or anxiety issues and they are found to be more confident and with more self-esteem than the other kids.

Every child needs a pillar of support from the family members while they grow up; I was lucky enough to have a memorable relationship with my grandparents. Grandparents are treasures to any child. They are those who make the child feel being loved and so special, and sometimes spoiled too.

Parents of interracial couples face social issues that they are unaware of how to handle. This makes them move away from their children and their grandchildren whom they love the most. Yes this would always affect a child. Overcoming these issues with proper parental guidance and support from the elders in the family can help the child accept and enjoy the mine of every culture they belong to.

Children born to interracial couples accepted by both families are found to grow happier and healthier than the child destined to a particular race even though being a biracial.

As and when I grew up, my parents grew more concerned about my identity and social life, what race to specify in my school admissions? Will I be accepted among my friends circle? Yes, I had friend of every race. In fact, we were not particular about our colours. Will my dating partner’s parents accept me? Yes they did. The world swirls so fast. Every family have evolved to have a drop of different blood in their origin and everything has to change as the Earth spins AND IT DID.

Interracial Dating: A Generational Perspective

Giving and getting the first hand interpretation on interracial dating can be some of the most interesting feedback to live through and experience. Through my personal journey of interracial relationships I have encountered everything from bigotry to blind acceptance. One of the best and most interesting ways to view the reactions to my relationships is with people who are from different generational gaps. Over the years I have met my parter's siblings, parents, and grandparents. This has allowed me a unique perspective from each of those different age groups and shown me the ways that not only those individuals reacted, but the way that age group in general would react.

Let's start out with the youngest group. My first long term interracial relationship partner had a much younger brother. He was about 9 when I first met him and he was a pretty good kid. He was from a small town where there were very few people of any minority race which made it interesting that I was dating his older sister. Even though I'm Asian, at first he assumed I was hispanic since that was the only race other than white which had permeated that small suburb. Long story short, over time he came to view me as an older brother. He loved me and accepted me with no bearing of race on my personality at all. To him, I was just another person who happened to be integrated into his family through being in a relationship with his older sister. As I saw some of his friends make racial remarks or base judgements off of race I never saw that from him.

The median generation, that of our parent's age group was much more divided. Being a small, country town there was plenty of racism going around in conversation and through various groups of people. Since the majority of white people in the town so far outweighed the number of anything else it was a pretty uncomfortable feeling for most of the minorities. Although my partner's mother and father were very accepting of me I got more than a few judging stares and suffered through quite a few awkward glances at my partner and I holding hands simply because she was white and I was not.

The last generation I had particularly direct relationships with was that of my partner's grandparents age group. This was by far the group from which I received the most negative feedback and judgement. There was a plethora of older people in the town we lived in and for most of them they had not really seen up close and personal a couple from two different ethnicities. Some of them visibly and emotionally were upset at the sight of it. This made me pretty mad at first since we live in such a modern society of acceptance, but this town in particular was a slice out of the past. It hadn't grown the same way most of society had in recent years and because of that the people there were not all very kind. It did show the trend of people just getting less and less accepting as the years went by and as the generations grew older. This is a trend which I think people all over the world share.

As people get older they get stuck in their ways. It is hard for them to adapt to the world changing in ways they've never seen before or are uncomfortable with. Hopefully this pattern of people getting more accepting in their younger age from exposure to media and the real world will continue and eventually the ideas of racism and judgment based on skin color or orientation will diminish even further.

By Mark

Interracial Dating: First Person Perspective

As the readers know by this point I am one half of an interracial relationship. A day in the life of a relationship such as mine is nothing new. There are people all over the world who are the minority in an interracial relationship. Sometimes the perspective can be lost though, so I'm here to tell exactly what it's like.

To begin, I'll just give a little background on our relationship. We met online. Some people would be embarrassed or hesitant to divulge that aspect, but to me it doesn't matter one bit. Online relationships and meeting people online is the norm in today's world. Why not open your boundaries to the entire world of the internet and not just the same, small group of people you already know in real life. If it wasn't for the internet I would have never met the incredible girl I call my partner and who knows who I would have settled for in the mutual friends and random coworkers I have around me.

Right off the bat we hit it off. There was instant chemistry from the pictures we saw of each other and the way we talked and talked. When we first met in real life it was just the same. We talked until the restaurant we met at closed and the feeling we both got we knew we were right for each other. The fact that she was white and I wasn't made absolutely no difference in how she or I felt. The real test, for many relationships like this, is what each person's parents think of the idea. Also, how people react in public. Although that isn't a huge problem no matter how they respond since all that matters in the end of the day is if the people in the relationship are happy, it still weighs heavily on the stress and overall comfort of the relationship.

Luckily, both of our families are great. They both took one another in without a second thought and it makes no difference in what race we are. In public it can be a different story. There are times when people look at us and give that second glance, or the awkward look which shows surprise or just a split second reaction of disbelief. We both come from pretty snobby areas where it's basically a majority of white people and usually they are with other white people. I guess seeing her with me makes them turn their heads occasionally.

All in all, we have never really had any big problems and no one has given us a real fuss. We go about our lives like everyone else and sometimes have normal amounts of public affection and do as we please. There's nothing anyone could say that would change the way we feel about each other and certainly no one's reaction to us being of different races would make us feel any less close. So, if you're in an interracial relationship and you feel like people are judging you. Try not to let it bother you. It's their problem, their bur
den, and their bigotry that will hold them back, not you.

By Mark

The Product of Interracial Relationships are now Old Enough to do the Same

Back in the 60s and 70s interracial relationships were finally starting to happen in a meaningful way. The previously frowned upon combinations of races were still being shown public hatred and disapproval, but in the privacy of the reforming world these relationships were still happening. This created an interesting situation because the couples that were forming back then were having children who are now having children themselves. This means that in the first significant way, the second generation of these interracial children are arriving into the world and in the spotlight.

The title of race is becoming more and more a term of unclear intentions. A person who is considered black in our current day is really most likely at least one or two generations removed from being 100% black by ancestry. Most black people who live in the US have been having children with another race at some point in recent history. So, while we still undeniably have “black” people, the real definition of a black person is in no way a static term. In a few decades all people will be mixed together and carry various traits of every race. As the walls surrounding interracial marriage come down, so do the borders defining race themselves.

As a child of a mixed couple, and in an interracial relationship myself, it is interesting to consider the interplay of race and the children of the next generation. To break this down a little more clearly before it gets confusing let's look at it this way. My mom was the daughter of an Irish man and a Japanese woman. This makes her 50% Japanese and 50% Irish. This is pretty common in today's world to have someone who is two racial backgrounds, one from each parent. Now, my mother who is half Japanese, half Irish married and had children with my father who is 100% Japanese. This makes me 75% Japanese and 25% Irish. Although this is less common than other mixtures, it is still somewhat normal seeing as how it is still only two races that come into play. To illustrate my point about how this can begin to become confusing let's bring my girlfriend into the mix. She is 25% German, 25% Irish, and 50% French. This means if we had children they would be an odd mixture of a multitude of nationalities. This is not going to be uncommon in many generations to come, rather this will be the norm. I'll spare the craziness of figuring out exactly what fractions the kids would be exactly, but they would be French, Irish, Japanese, and German.

As our world progresses and gets more and more accepting of couples of different faiths, nationalities, religions and world areas, this will only get more and more common. The children of each generation hence forth will be such a large mixture of all of the ethnicities that race and the idea of interracial marriage won't be an issue anymore.

Glen and Maggie From Walking Dead: America's Favorite Interracial Couple

For the fans of the AMC television show, The Walking Dead, this last week's episode and season finale was a heart breaker. We saw another main character who has been there since the first season go, but there was an even bigger announcement for those of us who love to love the interracial relationship of Glen and Maggie. They have been an unconventional couple ever since their inception in the second season when the Asian American city dweller met the farm country girl, but they have been inseparable ever since. Last week's episode was especially important for them because Glen decided to take his devotion to Maggie to the next level and ask her father's permission to marry her. Of course, this kind of devotion is praised in a post apocalyptic zombie crazed world, and he agreed.

After receiving the blessing from Maggie's father, he did what any hopeless romantic needing an engagement ring in the world of the living dead would do and found a “walker” with a ring and cut it right off of her hand. Romantic right? Don't worry I'm sure he washed it off, or at least wiped it off first. It was a special day for Glen and Maggie as this Asian and white couple was now solidified officially to hope to one day get married.

I've never been a huge fan of television shows in general, but I must admit this show has me hooked. It is one of the most engaging and entertaining series I have ever watched, and the fact that there is a very unconventional interracial couple at the heart of it makes me love it that much more. It is a manly man's show with killing and action in every episode, but somehow it garners the attention of every man and woman who comes across it on tv. Even though you'd expect them to be more hesitant about featuring such an interracial couple so prominently in such a highly watched show, they don't at all and it makes me incredibly happy to see. All this does is show that the trend we have been discussing for months is still happening. Interracial relationships are still on the rise and the acceptance of them is nothing short of becoming commonplace. This is an amazing trend and makes me, one half of an interracial couple, incredibly happy to see.

Interracial Relationships From Both Points of View

It's often an interesting perspective to view the same relationship from both the men and women's points of view. This week I decided to tackle the same aspects of my current relationship: meeting for the first time, initial reactions, and overall attitude from my perspective and from my girlfriend's perspective to see what the differences are between a man and a woman, or the minority and the non minority in an interracial relationship.

First impressions:

My first impressions when meeting my current girlfriend were pretty simple. We had legitimately everything in common and I found her incredibly attractive. As far as first impressions go I couldn't really have had a better one. The only fear I had at the time was if she would not be interested in me because I wasn't white like she is.

Her first impressions of me were that I was a handsome, kind and funny person who she had an unbelievable amount in common with. Notice how race didn't even factor into that. She noticed how I was polite and opened doors and went out of my way to be cordial. She was afraid I didn't like her, but in hindsight it was all probably both of us just being too fearful to be forward with our emotions in fear of rejection.

Start of our relationship:

We had gone out a few times to dinner, movies, stuff like that, before we officially were in a relationship. We were both trying to keep it slow. I had just gotten out of a serious relationship and she hadn't been in one in years so we were both just trying to play it cool and not rush into anything.

I liked her a lot and knew from the second we hung out the first time and met in person I wanted to be in a relationship, but I knew it was more appropriate to wait and not ask right of the bat. I was more afraid of anything that the interracial aspect would be off-putting to someone who wasn't also a minority.

She says now she wanted a relationship too. She is more shy than I am and is reserved in a way that she is fearful to put herself out there emotionally unless I say something first. Once again race wasn't an issue. We were simply both very attracted to one another and it was never even really thought of on her end that we were anything but good together.

The bottom line:

The thing to note here with my current relationship is that, yes, on the surface we are an interracial relationship couple, but in our minds we simply care about each other. There's nothing else to it other than that. We are two people who happen to be from different ethnic backgrounds, but that doesn't mean anything other than what we look like. All that matters is that we care about each other, are attracted to each other, and work well together. At the end of the day that's all you can really ask for.

By Mark

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Interracial Couples on TV

There is a TV show on right now that is taking the world by storm. Literally every single person who starts watching this show becomes addicted, and ironically enough there is a prominently featured interracial couple as two of the main characters. The show is a new school zombie apocalypse interpretation based off of the comic book series of the same name, “The Walking Dead”. The two main characters are Maggie, a small town, white, farmer's daughter from the country, and Glenn, a Korean American man from the city. During the hustle and bustle of the dawning apocalypse they found each other and became inseparable. The main thing to note is how normal this duo is cast. This just goes to show that interracial relationships as a whole have come such a long way in recent years.

Not only do the characters of Maggie and Glenn kiss on screen, have passionate love scenes, and more than hint at a physical romance between the two, but the whole thing is completely passive. Yes, they are a white woman and an Asian man in a relationship, but nothing is ever even really noted about it. They are simply a couple.

It is very refreshing to have a show so mainstream, so in the public eye feature a couple like this. Most of the relationships on those types of public shows have been almost entirely based in the idea of white couples, or at the largest stretch a black couple. It is very rare to see to different races play such a starring role. The changing times only become further represented by television shows and media. There have been a few of these blog posts lately relating to the ideas portrayed in media on and with interracial couples. It is all connected to show how what is going on in the world always relates back to what is being shown in the media. Just as social trends follow and fade through style and art, the views on relationships are shown through media.

As interracial dating has only become more and more relevant in recent times, the prevalence of the mention of it and the representation of it in media has exploded. Movie stars are in interracial relationships, tv couples are involved with other races and it is no longer even really something out of the ordinary. If you're attracted to people of another race it is normal and perfectly fine to pursue. It is amazing that the world of media accepts this and allows it to be uncensored now.

Personal Interracial Relationship Story

As I have referenced before in many of my blog posts I am a mixed race Asian guy. I grew up in a heavily white area and found myself very attracted to white women for my entire life. I never really was able to act on this desire until I was in college and met people outside of my closed off, suburban town. I met a really nice girl who was into all of the things I was. We had a great time, were together for years, even lived together for a few years. But, as often happens with relationships, especially at that young of an age, we simply grew apart. The love that we had that at one time seemed impervious to faltering was collapsing around us and we decided we needed to part ways. Being an Asian guy in North America, you rarely see Asian men and white female couples, but that was what I was always interested in. I'm not a racist by any means, I just find white women to be very attractive. I find all races of women attractive, but in terms of an actual preference I'd be lying if I said it was anything other than for white women.

So, here I was, left devastated by a breakup with a girl who I thought was the perfect one for me. It was my first actual relationship where we were together for so long it was no longer you and I, we were referred to everyone in a plural. We were a package deal. Now I was alone again. To add to the troubles of simply resorting back to single life, I also was troubled over wondering if I would ever meet another white girl who was interested in an Asian guy. I know this seems trivial, but it was quite a burning issue in the back of my mind. After a few months went by and I had gathered my independence again I figured it was time for me to start looking again. The only issue was that after breaking up I had moved back home to leave the town I had lived with my ex in, to start over fresh. I was back in the town where my interests in interracial love were never allowed to flourish. I feared that I would simply never meet another girl who liked me and wanted me just as much as I wanted them.

I turned to online dating. I figured this way I could meet people I would never otherwise have a chance to meet. I could also strike up conversations with people without fearing personal face to face awkwardness or rejection. It was pretty much a win-win situation. After a few weeks I had started talking to a few people but they kind of sizzled out after a while. I was starting to lose faith. Then I started talking to this one girl who's profile seemed shockingly similar to mine. We were literally interested in all of the same things. It was unbelievable how much we had in common, and not to mention the fact that she was beautiful. I have been seeing her for a few months now and I finally feel like I am allowed to write on interracial relationships again now that I have found my companion in life once again who is not of my race. The moral of my personal story is that interracial love is out there for everyone. No matter how long of a shot you think it is, or how unlikely you will be to meet the perfect person for you out there it simply isn't true. There is someone out there for everyone and anyone.

By Mark

Interview With an Interracial Couple: Stacy and Wen

I recently had the pleasure of meeting a new interracial couple from New York City. Their names are Stacy and Wen. They are friends of a friend of mine who went to school with Stacy in New York and have been close ever since. Stacy is a mixture of European heritage while Wen is Chinese. They also met in college and have been a couple ever since. Given the fact that I write for a blog on interracial dating I couldn't pass up the opportunity to ask them a few questions and get their opinions on their relationship from two other people in an interracial relationship.

Me: How do you think people on the street usually react when they see you guys are a couple and not just friends?

Stacy and Wen: We have been together so by now it just feels like whatever. At first we were more conscious of what was going on around us or if we got any looks, but we were going to a super liberal, laid back art school so the people there honestly would be the last to give us any trouble. Now it really just seems like no one notices or cares haha. 


Me: How did your families react when they met your significant other for the first time?

Stacy: My mom first found out when I talked to her on the phone. I was like, “I'm going out with a Chinese guy, and she was all like, “No way!”, and I was like yeah really!” It wasn't a big deal my parents were hippies in the 70s and would be the last ones to be racist or judge based on something like that. They raised me well I guess haha. I know my friend was dating a black guy and when she told her mom her mom actually freaked out and was mad. That's just ridiculous. 

Wen: I actually told my mom first too because I didn't know how my dad would react. Chinese people can get kind of weird about dating outside of their race I guess. Mostly because my parents are actually from China and immigrants to the US so their ideas are all based in Chinese culture and all of our relatives and friends and family friends around us are completely Chinese, literally all of them. That was the only reason I was nervous. At first I think they were more confused than anything. They definitely weren't mad or angry or disapproving though. Now they love her, probably more than they even like me haha. 

Me: Have your views on interracial relationships changed since you've been in one?

Stacy: Well, I've never really been one to give it much thought. I always just wanted people to do whatever they felt like they wanted to do, you know? I mean I guess growing up I always imagined the fairy tale of meeting my prince and getting married and I always imagined a white guy, but I grew up in the suburbs of upstate New York where there are like no minorities ever. I didn't even really know about people from other races. When I started seeing them later in life I was like, oh he's cute! Race was never really something I noticed above anything else like that.

Wen: Not even going to lie I like white girls. I like Asian girls too, but being raised in the United States I was always really attracted to white girls. I don't really know why, I guess for the same reason that Stacy said where like all of the white girls were the ones in movies the ones “everyone” had a crush on. It was more of a cultural thing I guess. 

By Mark

Have a Tough Skin

I recently moved from a relatively large city to the hometown of my girlfriend. Nothing has been more of a wake up call on the different views of interracial dating than this. As I've mentioned before, but will mention again, I am of mixed Asian and white race and my girlfriend is completely white. In the city we lived in it wasn't too crazy. There were white and black mixed couples a few Indian and white or hispanic and white couples, but the vast majority were of the same race. It was never anything too special or noticeable, and I usually got more looks from Asians that were seemingly judgmental than I did anyone else. The bottom line was, in the city we lived in it was never really made out to be a big deal. Everyone kind of just minded their own business and went their own way.

Then we moved to my girlfriend's town.

This town is incredibly small, lots of farm country, and the people who live here have mostly lived here for generations. The make up of the town is, no exaggeration, probably around over 98% white. There was no other Asian family in the town until one moved in and opened up a Chinese takeout restaurant. Trying to break stereotypes right? 

Anyway, so we moved there. It was fine at first. I hated having to drive an hour to get to any real grocery store, but we made it work. Her family is all incredibly nice so I never really thought anything of it. Then it happened. I was walking into a grocery store in her small town when someone randomly yelled a racial slur at me. I was dumbfounded. Was I mistakenly in a time machine to the deep south? What did I do to deserve this? That was just the beginning. Later we were holding hands in line at another store to which a random old lady said, “... what you guys are doing is disgusting. Stick to your own kind”. After I picked my jaw up from the floor I think we both realized we had to move. I'm not saying everyone in the town was a closed minded racist, but there were more here than I had ever experienced in my life.

So we just got done moving today. We moved back to an area near where I'm from this time where the people aren't quite as bad. It's a start, but the moral of the story is you need to have a tough skin in the real world of interracial dating. Not everyone is as accepting and open minded as they should be, but love is what comes first. Make yourself and your partner happy. Meeting people online who like what you like is the newest most popular way to meet your partner, and with interracial love it can be just that much easier.

                                                                          By Mark

Worldwide Views on Interracial Relationships

Interracial relationships and the way people perceive them vary an incredible amount depending on where in the world you are. For example in the southern United States there are still areas where racism thrives and the idea of an interracial couple is grounds for harassment. There are also places like the west coast of the United States where interracial relationships are entirely commonplace and accepted. It really completely depends on geography and the demographic of the people in the area. If there is that much variance within the United States, then obviously worldwide the same pattern can be recognized.

Worldwide acceptance of interracial relationships varies from country to country and city to city, just as it would any other place in the world. There are of course areas where it is far more widely accepted than others. For example Canada is one of the most widely recognized countries for being open to interracial couples. In fact, you'd be hard pressed to walk the streets in any major city and not see a black and white mixed couple or an Asian and white mixed couple. It's quite a welcome and amazing site to see.

Countries in the Middle East on the other hand are notorious for being not as willing to accept interracial couples.  Many often forbid it in more strict areas and cultural stereotypes belittle the idea often from birth.

A common theme seems that where there are more people of different races in general are where there are more likely to be more accepting interracial communities. Canada, like America, is an incredibly diverse cultural melting pot. The presence of so many different nationalities in such booming cities makes it inevitable for interracial love to blossom. Places like Afghanistan where there are few foreigners present on a larger scale would simply not allow for interracial relationships to even arise.

All in all, it really does depend on where you live to find interracial love. You just might get lucky and be the exception, but you would certainly have better chances in a place where it is more common. The great thing about the modern day is that you can have access to interracial dating communities like this to meet people from all over the world regardless of where you actually live, or where your possible love is from.

The Life and Interracial Love of a Blog Writer

I haven’t always had the best luck in love. In fact, compared to most of my peers for most of my entire life I haven’t really been keeping up, so to say. I was always the shy kid. The one people would tease about never talking. I became that way because the town I was raised in was almost entirely white, upper-class people. My family was mixed race and middle class. Even though my mom had a very good job she raised us by herself so we weren’t exactly rich. I always knew I wanted to be with someone other than my race, which wasn’t unrealistic given the fact that there was no other part Asian part white person in my town.

Fast forward to college when I left my sheltered, closed-minded, and secluded town. I finally began searching for real interracial love. I have always had an attraction to white females even though the relationship of an Asian male and a white female isn't very common. For some reason or another I was just always drawn to them. It was always something I wanted but never had. I guess it was that kind of hope and longing for one day having it.

My junior year at college I finally met this great girl. We became friends fast and I was always really attracted to her. We had everything in common and race never even came up. It just so happened that she was white and I was Asian, but we never really thought of it that way. I finally mustered up enough courage to ask her out and we've been together ever since.

I wish back in my lonelier days where I desperately searched for love in all of the wrong places there were online interracial dating resources like there are now. I would have been all over that. Even just to meet other people who are interested in, or attracted to the same types of people I am would have been a monumental help in my self esteem.

I’m now happily in an interracial relationship and my girlfriend or I haven’t been any happier. Of course, like any relationship, it takes time and hard work, but now we can both be together and happy with each other in our lives. Race may be a fact of life, but choosing who to be with is in your heart.