Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Interracial Dating: First Person Perspective

As the readers know by this point I am one half of an interracial relationship. A day in the life of a relationship such as mine is nothing new. There are people all over the world who are the minority in an interracial relationship. Sometimes the perspective can be lost though, so I'm here to tell exactly what it's like.

To begin, I'll just give a little background on our relationship. We met online. Some people would be embarrassed or hesitant to divulge that aspect, but to me it doesn't matter one bit. Online relationships and meeting people online is the norm in today's world. Why not open your boundaries to the entire world of the internet and not just the same, small group of people you already know in real life. If it wasn't for the internet I would have never met the incredible girl I call my partner and who knows who I would have settled for in the mutual friends and random coworkers I have around me.

Right off the bat we hit it off. There was instant chemistry from the pictures we saw of each other and the way we talked and talked. When we first met in real life it was just the same. We talked until the restaurant we met at closed and the feeling we both got we knew we were right for each other. The fact that she was white and I wasn't made absolutely no difference in how she or I felt. The real test, for many relationships like this, is what each person's parents think of the idea. Also, how people react in public. Although that isn't a huge problem no matter how they respond since all that matters in the end of the day is if the people in the relationship are happy, it still weighs heavily on the stress and overall comfort of the relationship.

Luckily, both of our families are great. They both took one another in without a second thought and it makes no difference in what race we are. In public it can be a different story. There are times when people look at us and give that second glance, or the awkward look which shows surprise or just a split second reaction of disbelief. We both come from pretty snobby areas where it's basically a majority of white people and usually they are with other white people. I guess seeing her with me makes them turn their heads occasionally.

All in all, we have never really had any big problems and no one has given us a real fuss. We go about our lives like everyone else and sometimes have normal amounts of public affection and do as we please. There's nothing anyone could say that would change the way we feel about each other and certainly no one's reaction to us being of different races would make us feel any less close. So, if you're in an interracial relationship and you feel like people are judging you. Try not to let it bother you. It's their problem, their bur
den, and their bigotry that will hold them back, not you.

By Mark

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