Sunday, October 13, 2013

To start with an online interracial dating







Online interracial dating websites can be the best option, if you are sure of your personal preferences and what you are looking for. It is always exiting to meet people of different cultures, background worldwide and exchange your thought with them. Just a casual chat can pull in people of same interest into the pool of friendship, and you are lucky when you find your pick in the pool. So what you have to do to start with.

Select a good interracial dating website:
One of the most important factors you should think of is to find out the right website for dating.  The climacteric element of these websites is the various dating options they provide. You can pin down your dating goals before selecting any of these websites, as each of them can offer you specific options based on your choice like you have websites specifically for white, Asian, African and Australian women and men, if you really had some choice for any of these people you can be more specific choosing those websites. If you are like, no specific goals and just fun loving then try out a good and popular interracial dating website.
Select between a free and a paid website as free ones can attract in more people than a paid ones. There are many websites that can offer free sign up to start with and then allows the user to upgrade their profile to access some exclusive perks and features. Some of these  interracial dating websites can also offer options for language translation that helps you the most when you are chatting with people who cannot talk your language. 
Whatever it is, take some good time to select the website that merges well with your personality and preferences. When you are comfortable with a service, you will tend to use it more often. The more time you spend in finding matches and talking to new people the more likely is the chance of finding your right person.

Keep your profile best and neat:
After selecting an interracial dating website of your choice what’s next? You have to create an attractive and comprehensive user profile. 
Keep your handle or the user name unique, personal. Not every website allows two users to have same name so it is important to create a unique identity name for your profile which tells what you are. Many online users set your handles as an identifier and they may even greet you with your handle names when you meet them so try keeping them cool and interesting. 
Try thought
provoking, unusual and/or intriguing one-liners in your tag lines. The very purpose of the tag line is to give a quick note about you; attracting people to read further about you. Tweak some of your favourite quotes or poem lines; Tip them with few funny ideas too. Never put any thoughts on racism that can spoil the real purpose.
Phrase your dating profile with exactly what you are looking for. You can make a list of interest and hobbies and about your family your work. Don’t be afraid to tell the facts about you and don’t ignore any of your real interest to mention as unappealing, as they might grab the eyes of that someone special you are looking for.

Be Positive and Honest:
Last but not the least be positive in your thoughts and be explain honestly about you, this can bring in the right person in your life.

Adolescence and interracial relationships (Interracial dating)


The young adults now-a-days have grown more open to interracial dating than their elder generation. They never give a thought about the colour of the person anymore, they are more particular about just how cute, hot and cool their partner is, and how comfortable they with the other.

“I like Asian men as they are cute and have a good sense of humour” says a teen white girl. Teens are found to show more importance to the common interest they find in each other than their colour.

Even media around us has changed in with more open views on interracial dating and marriages than before. This gives the teens a comfort and ease to move out with people of different races and culture.

A recent study shows that students who attend more racially diverse school are more likely to have interracial relationship than those who live in less diverse areas.
Even now in few parent’s the very thought about the children dating beyond races is worrying them. They did not understand the fact that adolescence always has space for understanding; it is just a beginning to mature from a naïve form. Unless they grow up and see the real word they cannot come up with a conclusion on their relationship.

 “My parents would never approve me of being with a white girl” an African-American teen says to the media. These words are still heard around some parts of America.
For the parents, whatever you believe and value as a part of your culture is truly understood. But, the time has changed. The best approach is that you can educate your children on interracial dating and marriages. So conversing with your adolescent kid and educating them with your experiences and the real facts about interracial relationships will give them a true expectation of what they are going to encounter. 

· Sit down along with them and share a breezy and casual conversation. You can also take it little formal as it can make them feel more important and adult-like.
· Don’t always present a dark picture of the interracial relationships.  As time has always changed and you know it is no more the same as it was before. The world has started to accept interracial dating and relationships than before. A recent study shows that 1 in 4 teens are open to interracial relationships.
· But at the same time put forward the challenges they would face and let them know that although interracial relationships are accepted by some, not by everyone. Explain the teen about the lack of acceptance they may face among the friends and family; and also the comments they may receive in public. Do not discourage them from engaging into an interracial relationship but let them know the struggle they have to face and handle in this relationship.
· Convey them the importance of being tolerant and create an acceptance towards the hardships in their life.
· Accept questions from your teen about relationships and present them with true answers.
· Discuss with them the positives of being in this relationship and let them also understand that being in an interracial relationship doesn’t pose to be more negative always.  When two different people of different culture have love and respect for each other it will always turn into a beautiful relationship.

Saturday, October 12, 2013

My Partner’s parents –The tips for Interracial Dating

Meeting the date’s parents has always been a difficult part in a relationship. And in an interracial dating this doesn’t pose to be harder, but can turn out to be a bit nerve wracking kind of experience due to the difference they face in cultural perceptions.

Sometimes interracial couples face challenges than others when they are ready to take up their relationship to the next level, like when they have to make their parents accept their relationship.  Even now people are more comfortable to gaze at an interracial couple on their way, than to accept them into their family. So, here are some fine tips to relax yourself when you are ready to meet your love’s parents.

Before meeting them
Discuss first:
Understand your relationship with your partner. Be clear of whether you are just dating or you are ready to take the next step. Discuss with each other the practical implications of being in the relationship, as this could help any couple irrespective of being interracial or not.
Before you meet your partner’s parents talk between yourselves about your families and their attitudes. (For single moms or single dads, they may try dating sites for single parents). Tell your partner stories of your family history and your family culture and customs and also tell your partner that how much you value their opinion.

When you meet them
Try to be gracious and patient:
Try to be gentle and forgive some misspelled questions from them.  Be generous in your conversation. Don’t expect to win over their family in the first meeting. Even if your date’s parents find you to be the best suited for their child, they might still have some hesitations when your relationship grows seriously. So make them feel how happy their child is in such a healthier relationship that will just vanish out their thoughts of your race and background.

Show openness to their culture:
Pretend to accept their food and other aspects of their culture, even if you don’t like them, just don’t throw it on their face because every person will have a pinch of pride for their culture inside them so doing this will for sure affect your purpose of being there. And at the same time don’t try show being more inquisitive and attraction towards their life style and topple down onto them that would create an awkward situation.

Make eye contact:
Be straight forward and look at them when you make a conversation. Don’t show them that you are uncomfortable, even if you are. This is not just for interracial couples but for every one who would want to win another person’s heart. Don’t keep starring at them too, have a casual conversation that can avoid some awkward pauses between them.

Don’t talk about Race:
Don’t pick a word that could spoil your day.  Talk about anything apart from race and communities. Don’t try to boast about your family and customs. Try to build in topics of mutual interest. A little discussion with your partner about this before the day can help you better

Be what you are:
Be smart , but try to be yourself, this can show your true identity to them which can get a positive click on your side from them or at least they may come to a clear conclusion of their opinion about you.

How to prepare yourself for an interracial relationship (Interracial dating)

Are you a in a phase of finding a true love. You may bump against many meaningless relationships on your way before entering into a true and serious one. All those media and technologies around you make your way easier to reach your desired person. But, the key step for getting truly committed is that, you must prepare yourself from your mind and soul together for the real love to enter into your life.

Attraction sparks in between two people quicker, but the process of love never ends till the people are together. So moving the relationship beyond the sparkling attraction to a serious commitment needs some personal realization and acceptance before entering it.

In that case, in interracial relationships where couples are of different backgrounds, tend to share less similar thoughts between each other than the other couples. With this in mind, you can spend a valuable time with yourself analysing on your personal views, before you are open to a relationship. This may help you in any relationship irrespective of being interracial or not. Here are few questions you can ask yourself if you are wondering whether you are cut out for a relationship.
Are you open to a relationship?

Realize yourself, your ability to live in a relationship. Find if you are open to different cultures and life style. Understand whether you can make commitment and embrace it in spite of the difference you find between each other in your future.

Are you in synch with your partner’s personality traits and inner self?

Although a person’s traits are laced together with their culture and background, it may be more influenced by the social lifestyle and the people around them.  Characters are always beyond colour and creed.  Find and analyse the characters of your desire in your partner. Understand that his or her characters are appreciable beyond their colour or creed.

Can you really accept the difference in culture and background in this relationship?

If your partner is vegetarian but you are the one who cannot live without hot dogs and burgers, you should be able to create an acceptance in yourself for avoiding your personal interest for him or her.

Think of the differences between each other based on your background and how you could embrace it throughout your relationship of interracial dating and should not regret for, in your future.
Does this in any way make you lose your identity and self-confidence?

See that your confidence and identity are not lost on your passionate way for finding your love.  Belief and acceptance reciprocated from both sides can tie up your love strongly together.  Accepting too much of the other person’s life can make you feel you’re lost in their world.

You can be truly lucky if you’re in relationship in which you can be what you are. Try to find a person who can accept you as you're.

Friday, October 11, 2013

A Child - of an interracial couple (Interracial dating)

In this fast moving century Evolution is no new word. Understanding that a part of us is always evolving into a new world with no catch for the races, the acceptance for multi-racial people has taken a positive leap now-a- days.

Being a person with biracial identity, now I can enjoy the pride and privilege of both the cultures I belong to. I am confident of what I am and who I am to this world. But, it started when I was a kid.

At an age where I can realize that I look different from most of my family members. When my friend was more inquisitive to know how I got this colour. I stood confused.  My mom gave me the answer. She explained me about skin colours and how they have nothing to do with human characters. She told me “Me and your father got married after interracial dating. We are of different races but we loved each other for what we are”. I understood that life is something just beyond skin colours.

Here it is a responsibility of every multi-racial couple, as a parent, to make the child understand what races are; Why he or she is different and being different is always good and not anything weird.

’ Tell her what gave that curly tuft of hair and tell him how he is a blend of two colours. Tell them to stand up for themselves, but at the same time they should endure kindness and patience throughout their life.’

Research states that children born out of interracial marriages are found with no difference in level of depression or anxiety issues and they are found to be more confident and with more self-esteem than the other kids.

Every child needs a pillar of support from the family members while they grow up; I was lucky enough to have a memorable relationship with my grandparents. Grandparents are treasures to any child. They are those who make the child feel being loved and so special, and sometimes spoiled too.

Parents of interracial couples face social issues that they are unaware of how to handle. This makes them move away from their children and their grandchildren whom they love the most. Yes this would always affect a child. Overcoming these issues with proper parental guidance and support from the elders in the family can help the child accept and enjoy the mine of every culture they belong to.

Children born to interracial couples accepted by both families are found to grow happier and healthier than the child destined to a particular race even though being a biracial.

As and when I grew up, my parents grew more concerned about my identity and social life, what race to specify in my school admissions? Will I be accepted among my friends circle? Yes, I had friend of every race. In fact, we were not particular about our colours. Will my dating partner’s parents accept me? Yes they did. The world swirls so fast. Every family have evolved to have a drop of different blood in their origin and everything has to change as the Earth spins AND IT DID.