Friday, November 21, 2014

Is interracial dating still scandalous?

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Scandal is one show that has captured the interest of many people. Even though it is an undeniable fact that this show has all the qualities that a great drama should have, once can’t help but notice that its juicy plotline has a component that you can’t ignore.

The main character of the show, Olivia Pope who is a black, highly powered woman is a relationship with Fitzgerald Grant, the white president of US who is also married. As a black US woman, I have now been married to my handsome white husband for a decade now. As such, depictions about black white interracial intimacy are something that I cringe at a lot.

Both historically and currently, interracial dating and black white relationships in particular have often been framed as deviant. The Purity Test is something that everyone who went through the college doors knows too well. This usually formed the foundation of numerous jokes and most people have always been greatly bothered with how sleeping with a person of another race brings your purity score down by a whole point.

There are other instances where besides being portrayed as a sign of impurity, interracial relationships are also associated with having uncontrollable sexual lust. In fact, it is not a wonder for black single women dating white dudes to find the society describing them simply in sexual terms.
Most people in this age still believe that there is nothing but pure sex that would make people of two different races to date. While it is clear that interracial marriages have been increasingly steadily in the recent past, interracial relationships have always been represented frequently as some little dirty secrets. They are regarded as relationships that should be hidden instead of being shown and displayed with pride.

As dating experts will tell you, the social and cultural history in America involving enslavement is an aspect that continues to make black- white couples to have very hard life compared even to other interracial couples. It is for this reason that most people are always very sensitive and concerned about the ‘out-ness’ of their interracial relationship.

There have been many stories where many black women have loved white men in their neighborhood or workplace but the white men are afraid of being seen dating the black women. So, when it comes to matters of black women meet white men, there is always a concern about the love being made public and set before everyone’s eyes.

However, the good thing is that things are changing nowadays and interracial marriages and relationships are becoming widely accepted in the society today. However, we can’t rule out the fact that the society still has a long way to go before such interracial love and romance finally stop being scandalous and becomes normal.

The most important thing is that we are making a good progress towards becoming a civilized nation and sooner than later, we will all embrace and appreciate each other for what they are and what they are not.

1 comment:

  1. This is a very good analysis. I am a white man who likes dating black women. I agree that those in interracial relationships wish to keep them hidden, at least at first, if they have a family for example, that might not be too thrilled. But as you say, Today it's becoming more acceptable, even the black-white coupling. I use a page that researches black dating sites and there is a blog as well with stories and advice. The page is At this time, I am not looking for something super-serious although whatever happens, happens. But I think as with anything that might possible have a complication, one should know very well what is desired and expected and then go from there. Good luck to all looking for love.